For those of you who are frequent users on twitter you probably are aware it is a place where anyone can interact with anyone..... of course, assuming that person reads their @ messages. This is no more noticeable than with celebs of varying degrees. Whether its your academy award winning legends, or your up & coming youtube singer, people use twitter day in & day out to tell celebs a lot of shit.
While MOST tweets are overly positive, maybe even to the point you question the sanity of those tweeting it. There is of course SOME negative ones, and sometimes those negative ones are mean... and I DO NOT mean the level of "mean" of something like "I wish the show would kill off your character because it sucks" level of mean. I mean with purposeful intent to attack and anger a celeb or even make threats against them. I'm not even a celeb & I get a handful of them annually and I only have 11K followers. So imagine what a celeb with 500K followers must get?
No more obvious of such an attack in recent memory I can recall has happened than this past few days with Once Upon A Time star Josh Dallas. At the time of writing this post, I have reported MORE THAN 40 accounts in the 2-3 days I became aware of this issue from a user somewhere in Europe that has been @ messaging Josh with harsh & negative words. The users intention is to try and bully Josh into deleting his twitter account. Ironic, considering the user claims to be a huge fan of Ginnifer Goodwin, Joshs wife, and FORMER twitter user herself who left eventually because of an unfair amount of critical tweets about her.
The users unhealthy obsession with Ginny has culminated in quite literally hundreds, possibly thousands of tweets at Josh, and 1 of Joshs fans, and now another actress that I guess Josh must have recently worked with. I'm not going to repeat what this psychopath has said. Needless to say, its at best rude, at worst unhealthy and obsessive.
SO FAR, twitter has (albeit kind of slow on the draw after their first few were suspended almost immediately) been on top of things, suspending the 40+ accounts so far. But the user just keeps making new ones up, often several at a time then spamming Joshs @ messages with their same lunatic ramblings. This is where twitter IS failing. The fact they didnt block access to the IP address/phone number after about the 3rd suspended account is frankly bewildering.
What YOU can do is.... if you see this troll posting, DO NOT engage them. I get the feeling they dont even look back on the profiles to see what replies they got since they have made so many of them. Just go to the report section (its the wheel looking icon next to the follow/unfollow button on a desktop... on phones, the icon looks different according to brand, but its usually next to the follow/unfollow button) go in there and REPORT them, you can go for Spamming, because they absolutely are spamming. You can also go for "abusive or harmful" which will then take you to a 2nd screen with more options where you can pick "engaging in targeted harrassment" this will take you to another screen asking if its you or someone else, which then you pick someone else & finally a screen MAY (not always) come up asking you to show examples of said offenses out of a handful of tweets they seem to randomly have picked.... just click on the ones that clearly show the proof & submit your report. Thats it. You can EVEN report them for both if you want to take the extra couple seconds. But dont engage the person..... EVEN if they comment in this blog post, DO NOT engage with them....... leave that to ME. By doing so, you are going to let them feel they've gained something out of this.
Lastly, to the nutjob behind this attack. You can "block" my twitter account all you want. Like you have others. Feel free. It IS your right..... just know, like you, I have multiple twitter accounts as well, all in good standing & you will never know which one reported you. Also, I truly DO hope you are coming here in August like you claimed in several posts, I hope even MORE I find out and run into you. All I will say is, someone will not enjoy their trip. Also, be absolutely sure, beyond a shadow of a doubt, you wont be getting a chance to interact with Ginny. Security will be well alerted to this.
Below is a screen cap of all the accounts (minus 5 that twitter suspended WHILE I was in the middle of reporting them so I lost the chance to bookmark them lol) twitter has so far suspended, and those soon to be suspended.... and I AM SURE in the time I have spent writing this blog post, they probably will have added to the list.
So, anyone got any suggestions on how do deal with said nuisance?
Also, have you ever seen another celeb attacked by 1 person so aggressively and what eventually came of it?
The Tragic Death of Christina Grimmie - and some insight to fans on why security is important...and might be tougher now
A name that many people never knew before they woke up Saturday morning to hear about the death of this musician that was on The Voice a couple years ago. Myself included.
When I first heard the news of her shooting last night I knew instantly this was not good..... and I do not mean just for the simple fact someone was shot. I meant for how/where it happened and what it could mean in the bigger picture.
The Youtube developed, The Voice elevated singer was doing a meet & greet with her fans, most of whom are quite young. She was taking time out of her day, as most entertains will since they know they are in a business where pleasing the public often equates to more success. She was doing everything right. Then something terribly wrong happened. A person (I refuse to name this coward) decided, for reasons we may never know due to his suicide after the events unfolded, decided to shoot Christina several times including in the face. Marcus Grimmie, her brother instantly tackled the shooter but not before he shot himself.
Thanks to social media, we pretty much know most or all of the pertinent details. We've seen 1st hand reports of how a member of Before You Exit yelled at fans to run away, worrying about their safety first, and his second. We know of course about her brothers heroics. We know most everything there is to know.... except maybe why. But this blog post isnt here to dissect why it happened. There will be plenty of places talking about that.
I am going to talk about the fact that almost everyone is going to be affected by this. Some more than others. If you are currently rolling your eyes at that assumption...read on.
The shooting of Christina Grimmie is unusual for a couple reasons. First, it was at a free promoted event that anyone could attend. A concert, a place MOST people would feel safe, or at worst not on guard of a potential violent threat. Even more shocking was the fact the shooting happened at a meet & greet. The idea this guy got a pair of guns & a knife into the venue is mildly shocking (I'd like to say its more shocking than that, but its the U.S..... so no, mildly is unfortunately right), the fact he got it into a meet & greet scenario, got close enough to her without any security picking up on the fact he likely was acting out of place prior is appalling.
The security for this event seemed minimal to non-existent according to tweets I found HERE and HERE from 2 from attendees saying security never even checked their purses. or a tweet where a fan says security actually ran away HERE. If this is true, thats 1 of the more cowardly acts I have ever heard of. At the very least, it is quite clear security was inadequate at this event. have been to a LOT of low security events, and while I have obviously never considered "how easy would it be to....", I have wondered a few times looking at some people "what do they REALLY want here?". So far, I have never encountered anything as scary as the events of last night, but I have definitely seen celebs, and other fans intimidated/scared/uneased by the actions of people. I have had a female actress tell me personally she doesnt feel comfortable when shes 5'3 with no one else around her being approached by 2, 6'0 tall men....and that was in a VERY public place. Its not a feeling I will ever know, but I can understand that hesitance/nervousness still on some level. Celebs, especially female celebs DO wonder much more than you or I ever will about security & are they truly safe in any situation.
This is where last nights events will have an impact on YOU...probably at some point. This didnt happen at Madison Square Gardens, venues like that have pretty detailed screening, it happened in a smaller venue where security is usually pretty lax by the sounds of it....especially for an audience coming to see a 22 yr old singer who is famous for being on youtube & a music competition. Right now, around the world, especially in the U.S., tens of thousands of people at varying levels of celeb status, security, management and other facets of the industry are talking with venues, hotels or their own people about safety and security.
The most obvious reaction to it, will be increase security getting in, at every point. It wont likely be JUST for 20something musicians either, accomplished long time musicians always have that concern as well, as do athletes, actors and even youtube stars, like Philip DeFranco who talked openly about how at VidCon, an event seemingly full of people similar to him, he walks around with off duty Police as security in this video posted today. Everyone will be reviewing, and very likely stepping up their security protocols in light of this tragedy.... as they should. So you, the consumer of the products will probably be inspected a bit closer before you are allowed to go see a show, a sporting event, or a convention because of the very public attack on Christina Grimmie. That little bit extra waiting around that some of you are going to selfishly feel annoyed by isnt just to annoy you, it is for the entertainers safety, as well as everyone else including YOURS. this likely will even stretch beyond the entertainment industry. Businesses with any level of wealth constantly see news stories like this and go over their own security with a fine tooth comb. Something that your workplace might implement in the following weeks or months might be because of what happened last night.
I have a job where interacting with famous people is a necessity obviously. To the locals, they know who I am, they know what I will/wont do. They know how to deal with me. We essentially have a mutal toleration of each other. But when I go to a different city, a different group of people in charge of assessing threats, I'm far more understanding if someone asks me a few more questions than seems reasonable. I get the place they are coming from. So if you are at an event, and that guard asks you a question or two, remember, they are doing it to minimize possible problems for everyone. Someone might see your actions differently than you might have meant them.... dont take offense to their inquiry. If you are somewhere, and you see someone that you feel isnt acting normally, dont be scared to report it to someone either. Several times I've reported something at a set or at an airport that turned out to be nothing, but never have I thought afterwards "that was stupid, it was nothing".
As for me. This is surely going to have a major impact on my business. Every time something similar to this happens, celebs, understandably, get more guarded than they were before. Sometimes those feelings disipate with time, but sometimes the celebs just go into shutdown mode & refuse to interact with anyone. My world is sure to get a lot more tougher to do my job due to this. It was after all at an autograph signing this happened. How much more relevant to my job could it be? For awhile, I will absolutely be far more patient and understanding when/if some guard asks me something or a celeb nervously tries to avoid an interaction. I'll still try, I still have particular points I will bring up to try and put them at ease, but I will also understand that hesitation.
Also, I know I stated this on twitter, but I will say it here in more than 140 characters. If you have ever emailed me, or tweeted at me, or even asked me in person "where can i find so & so?" and youve wondered why I am reluctant to share that info, perhaps this tragedy makes you understand far more. I generally consider myself nicer than most of the autograph hounds you'll meet. I'm willing to help out within reason, but I am also very cautious of giving people info that I feel they shouldnt have. I have always told people "well you can find them at set, or they are doing a meet & greet here..." instead of giving them their home address or their flight schedule. It is NOT because I am trying to keep that knowledge to myself, it is because I find the venues I stated more suitable for a celeb to encounter with someone they dont really know. If youve ever had the random luck of seeing a celeb while they are out at dinner, or at an airport and seen them get found by a flock of fans, you surely know, they are not comfortable with the situation more often than not. They might still take the time to meet them, but they are far far less at ease doing it than if they were at their film set or a meet & greet event where there are some level of safeguards in place to minimize risk to them.
A story I have retold 100s of times in Vancouver is of an actress who still works here telling me & another autograph hound "you guys, I have no problem with, because I know what you want... its fans I dont like, because you never know what they really want". It isnt that this woman hates her fans, its that she has a comfort level with autograph hounds she can never have with a fan, because she never knows what it is they truly want from her, where as with us, she knows. I've heard similar stories to that from others in the past as well, just the way she put it sort of summed it up best. A lot of time I see fans gripe & bitch because I met someone, and they didnt. Sometimes, theres a reason for that, and its that the entertainer prefers dealing with people they understand as opposed to a wild card. In my experiences, far more celebs than you might expect prefer dealing with someone like me compared to a random 1 off encounter with a fan. This is why I dont give out details to people that arent public. A film set, a meet & greet, those are things where there is some control for them to deal with it. Their personal time is a terrible place for fans to find them, and I wont encourage that. So that is why I likely ignored your request in the past.
Lastly, & most importantly in all of this. My condolences go out to her family, especially her brother who will feel things few if any of us ever will, to her friends, and to her fans. To any of her fans that were there and had to witness this, I wish there was something to tell you to make this better but it doesnt work like that. Only time will help minimize this feeling. If you are having trouble dealing with it, talk to your friends and family. This is why they are there. Or talk to a stranger if you feel it will be easier. There are plenty of places you can call/go to have someone listen. Rest In Peace Christina Grimmie, I am sorry I had to learn who you were like this.
There is a Gofundme page set up for the Grimmie family. You can find it HERE
Clearing the air. Why I filed a DMCA notice yesterday on a Once Upon A Time fans photo. Plus correcting lots of lies & misdirection from the culprit.
So, let me start off by stating a couple obvious facts.
1- I dont actually LIKE teling people when they are wrong,. I'm just good at it & how many things that are clearly bullshit get passed off as truths in society because they go unchecked by anyone.
2- I had no intention of doing a post like this.... till the post that caused me to do this was made. Its a battle that shouldnt even be a battle, but, also one I am not just going to ignore.
3- You know how annoyed I am to even be doing this? Let me put it like this. I have currently 21 blog posts that I SHOULD be doing ahead of dealing with this.... thats how annoyed I am.
So some backstory context. Two days ago a fan set photographer posted a photo from Once Upon A Time that was clearly taken from her phone off the back of her camera. She posted it to give the fans something to look at till more properly edited photos can be put up later. Now, neither that photographer, or myself are naive enough to think people WONT use our photos. I have had mine posted in major blog sites articles linking back to the originating post. That isnt (at least in MY case) what this was about. The issue was that someone else posted the photo, cropped in even more to make it look like a different photo.... and then claimed it was theirs. At that point I was still unaware of this issue. I became aware of it, when a 2nd person I follow commented about the argument between the pair. As those of you who use twitter know, if 2 people you follow are involved in a convo, it will show up in YOUR timeline...even if it includes people that you DONT follow. When I looked into this thread to see more about it, I saw the full story. The photographer called out this woman for posting her photo cropped. INSTEAD of the woman apologizing, or at the least, removing the photo & saying she didnt know.... she doubled down and defended it, saying her child took the pic. When multiple people told her she was wrong, she again DIDNT apologize, but doubled down even more saying its no big deal, her kid has never done that before and still not removing the photo. Then I got involved. I told the photographer, in a tweet that included the violators handle in it so she could see it too, that the photog should file a DMCA claim. The photog told me she didnt want to go thru that hassle. In that time, the violator DARED us to do it HERE .... so I made a request to the photog to buy the pic off her for $1, and once I owned it then I could make that claim. She did so.
This then let me post a completely different cropped version of the pic (more of the image than was originally posted), heavily tagged to show I own the original file. With that, I made a DMCA claim against the woman...as she asked for. Once that was done, to ME the issue was resolved. Funny enough, it was brought to my attention the woman I filed the claim against was the mother of a girl that I had to make an example out of at set the day before for disregarding the rules everyone else was living by. This suddenly explained A LOT about how that girl was acting, if her mother is thinks shes this entitled.... well.....
I wake up to "99+" notifications on my twitter. Not a rare thing for someone with 11K followers. But still a tad unexpected. It seemed 1/3 of them was a back & forth convo of 2 or 3 parties talking about how I acted about another tweet I had made, but in there was a handful telling me how rude, mean, disgusting I was for "bullying a child", as well as those of course defending what I did because they saw the facts, and not just what 1 party wanted them to see.... remember all the backstory I posted? Yes I supposedly bullied THAT child, by making a DMCA claim against her mom... not her, her mom.
Now, this is where things get really interesting. the user posted several tweets victim blaiming. It started with this nugget. Yes, she WHINED that I filed a claim for her posting copyrighted material without consent...remember this is exactly what she TOLD ME to do. Oh, she also still implied it was her kids photo. She followed up with this doozie claiming I'm jealous of time shes spent with cast. We're talking about a cast I have met so often they know me and remember things they told me several weeks earlier, and remember when they made promises to me even when drunk. That cast? I dare to say I have spent more time in 1 conversation with 1 cast member, let alone multiple cast members than she has with the whole cast combined. There are points where I go out of my way to avoid seeing some cast because I run into them so often. there might be people who have met the cast more than I have, but I dont 1- care 2- believe she is 1 of those people.
Next up, was playing the victim card...errr... the whole deck.. You did in fact block Kat...but you failed to mention it was after you claimed the pic was yours, and dared me to file a DMCA. You blocked her, as you did me (funny you NEVER make mention of me in any of this.... guess you know how to pick your battles) because we called you out on it.
Next was this tweet, Kat isnt bullying you. You cant just throw around the "bullying" tag any time you dont get your way you imbecile. Also, YOU arent a kid. Are you? No. Lets not forget, your kid was outright breaking rules at set. Lets also not forget she knowingly stole someone elses work & passed it off as her own. Lets also not forget, you vouched for it, and TOLD US to file a DMCA. Thats not bullying. Even me calling you an imbecile isnt bullying. That is stating facts. Like it or not, sometimes, facts can be... mean? Not sure of a better word to put there. but mean is over stating it. Not Nice? Maybe thats better? I dont know. Facts are NOT one sided. They are NOT just happy, friendly, cheerful things. Facts DO include wrongdoing. In this case, the facts point to you doing wrong, either knowingly or not, and your daughter doing wrong, quite knowingly (any tween/teen knows right from wrong... she knows she didnt take that pic and her passing it off to you as such is wrong...and she knows it.). Perhaps you should take a class on bullying so you can accurately tell what true bullying is.
This tweet, I dont even know where to start with this. Incorrect, actually you know... that was easier to do than i thought. I've actually seen FIRST HAND how YOUR child pushes her way to the front of things.... including infront of a barricade.The person you claim pushed your child, was standing BEHIND a barricade that your daughter stepped in front of, and this isnt even teh only example I've personally witnessed of this. This is why I made the stand I did... a stand by the way pretty much every regular there applauded dont forget.... oh wait, I'm getting ahead of the story, arent I?.
This tweet. yes, that was ME. Do you know WHY that happened? No? Of course you dont, you werent there. It was done to show the absurdity of how YOUR DAUGHTER and her friend stepped infront of hundreds of people and just made themselves comfortable INFRONT of a barricade. Oh, and how did that all end? Right, security did NOTHING to me... because when he heard my point he knew I was right. To be honest, I was a bit disappointed they didnt take harsher actions.... like moving me AND your daughter & her friend behind...but in either case, the point was made and security in the end decided I wasnt in the wrong.
More using the "bullying" card here. Have you? Really? Because you werent even at the set. I'd get just off the top of my head at least 5 crew who would call her (and even me) far more patient than we probably should be with kids like yours who just push their way to the front. Just last time I was in Steveston 1 of the security apologized to ME for the way "the fans" acted when they (shocker) shoved in front of me. Did I shove them back? No, I gave into their entitled demands and got shut out of what I was there for at the moment (luckily I made up for it 2 mins later elsewhere). When security are apologizing to a 6'0 230 lb adult male for being pushed aside.... something is wrong with the kids that did it. There is a good reason I'm allowed to do a lot of the things I do at set, including getting pics others cant.... because the crew understand my points of view, and some even respect what I say. Just like with the protest the other day, they know when I say something its not a delusional fan feeling robbed, its someone who has a history of pointing out facts... like when someones kid & friend are knowingly in front of 100s of other people who are behind a barricade.
This tweet. Incorrect. I OFFERED to buy it, because she didnt WANT to go thru with the takedown notice, and I convinced her someone should or else you'll feel like its your right to do it again. She gave me the photo and "I" was the one who filed the DMCA notice... and I wasnt attacking your child.... I was attacking YOU. The one who posted the photo, refused to take it down & dared me to file a DMCA. YOU did that, not your child. I find fault with your child on some things, but this 1 is 100% on YOU, the adult.
Just when I thought I was done with this, you've added more....
Who said you were lying? At any point who said that? Did I say you USED your daughters percieved issues, and your possible illness? YES. I stated THAT. Not once did I say that they couldnt be real. This is such a stereotypical victim blaming tactic. Use any and all heart string statements you can fit into something to make the percentage of people who are instinctively compassionate for "hard luck stories" to take your side. Was your cancer relevant to telling the story? No. You added it for sympathy. That ENTIRE paragraph was worded to garner sympathy, to make people feel bad for you and NONE of it was relevant to any storytelling. If you had stuck to facts, I probably would have not gone thru your entire twitter feed & torn you apart like this... I probably would have replied to JUST the letter. But, you had to try & buy sympathy. Heres a reality check lady, EVERYONE has their own battles. Everyone. So your "we've had it hard" story is a carbon copy of 90% of society in some way, shape or form. USING it to gain sympathy is pretty low & speaks of your character more than anything else so far I've discussed here.
This tweet. You never removed it immediately because you wanted to find out for yourself? Fair point.... and I would have accepted that if you didnt actually DARE US to make a DMCA claim. That voids any claim of innocence on your side. that defiant 4 letter, 2 word tweet was the problem more than all the other things you said.
This tweet. Incorrect. "She" never involved me... "I" involved me. Her first reaction was to just let it go. I am the one who decided to take this on so as to stop YOU from going on acting like the entitled brat you are.
This tweet Not entirely true. It wasnt "paperwork" for starters, it was digital, thus the D in DMCA. But thats really semantics. the bigger issue is you continuing to claim "she" SENT me after you. Get it thru your head, I sent me after you.Why arent you attacking ME? You keep attacking her.... but not me. Is it because you realize that I am someone you cant just bully? Ironic.
The letter that caused much of this brouhaha... lets break this down lie/irrelevant point by lie/irrelevant point.
First paragraph... so far, I am okay with what was said.
Second paragraph. You were called a liar AFTER you defiantly insisted it was your daughters photo. Twitter chain goes like this.
Your post with the photo (since then removed via DMCA from "someone")
Photographers reply "excuse me? Thats my photo".... Is she saying your a liar? NO. Stating a fact? Yes.
Your reply and this is an important one "really, because my daughter took it" RIGHT. THERE. thats the moment you crossed a threshhold from innocent mistake to liar. from there on out, anything you say should be along the lines of "I'm sorry... it appears I'm wrong. I'll remove it". But you dont... instead, this goes on.
Photographer then SHOWS you the original photo tweet
You reply its from your daughters device, she doesnt need to take other peoples she has lots of her own..... doubling down on defiance.
This went on for dozens more tweets before I even got involved.
So, back to your letter..... you were TOLD and SHOWN proof the photo wasnt your daughters, and still defied the photographers requests? Even when others (including eventually me) came in to verify it? A normal self respecting person with any moral compass would cower to this evidence and accept they were in the wrong, remove the image, and apologize. Not you however, INSTEAD you dared her &/or I to file a DMCA against you. So I did. Also "just a kid" is a valid statement if she was 6 or 7 or 8, yours is like 12 or 13ish from what I see. If shes old enough to possibly be in high school, shes old enough to KNOW right from wrong. In this case, she KNEW, she just didnt CARE.... which is a problem not just on her, but her parents for raising her that way. Or, maybe she was raised properly, and she has developed reasons to ignore her training? In either case.... knows wrong from right, chose to ignore it etc.
If your daughter, at that age DOESNT know she did anything wrong..... *heavy sigh* you are in severe need of help with her. I am not saying this next part to be purposefully mean, although I know how it looks... just stating facts. Shes either too stupid to know right from wrong, or, shes too ignorant to care whats right or wrong. In either case, its going to get her into bigger trouble when she gets older. You really should assess & deal with this now while there is still hope. "Not Knowing"?? How is that possible? Was she hypnotized when she KNOWINGLY saved the image from soneone else on her device?? Serious question there. I dont know how she can claim she did NOT know that she saved someone elses work onto her devide. That ones hard to get around. Incorrect about the selling it to me so that she could send me after you. I ASKED her to buy it so that I could go after you after what I had seen, because she was going to just roll over and take it because she didnt want the hassle. She didnt get me after you. I got me after you. Yes, I am that "same jerk" that did that..... and was supported by pretty much every regular there, and guess what??? Security in the end did NOTHING to me. Ummm WHO said what about old ladies crossing the street? I'd LOVE to hear that. I was quite sure I heard the girl your claiming said that praising him and stating how sweet it was. So, do you care to explain in more detail these alleged "awful remarks" because that there is libelous. Not that other things youve said so far arent as well...but this one is big enough that if it were ME you said that about... I'd be petty enough to make it a legal issue for you.
Paragraph 4 is an ENTIRE "feel sorry for me" cavalcade of targeted keywords. Bring up your daughter is in tears (although a bit later you told someone shes fine) Add in the hard struggle life shes had that no one knows of... and a cancer survivng mother to it. then add in how you do this FOR HER to tell her children someday..... how can anyone NOT feel sorry for you after that entire paragaph. Luckily I am experienced enough in dealing with people like you, and jaded enough to know guilt building from motive free statements. You didnt post all of this because it was relevant, you posted this to gain sympathy. Even if each & every part of it is fact based, it doesnt make you right. Having some rough times doesnt make you above the law, or even slightly less guilty. It DOES however, show you as someone who will try to cash in on your issues. Everyone has issues they deal with, some worse than even yours. MOST people dont use it as a crutch to defend their actions.
I applaud you doing things to give your child a better life. Parents are supposed to do that...... HOWEVER.... they are also supposed to do the hard things. Like teach them wrong from right. Like let them know when they have done something wrong. it has consequences. Like punishing them if they do something wrong. Like not making them believe when they do something wrong that its someone elses fault. Your child is almost a teenager. I knew right & wrong when I was 6 or 7. I know this, because I remember vividly stealing candy from a local store a few times, getting caught by my mom and having to return it & pay back the store for other times I did it. When I did it... I KNEW what i was doing was wrong, I was too young to know consequences then... but I learned them there. My mother didnt try to defend me, or justify it, or even let me off with a warning. She taught me if you do something wrong, there are consequences.... and it was a valuable lesson. A lesson you SHOULD be teaching your daughter, instead of victim blaming.
I am sure your kid has good characteristics. Most everyone has SOME. Doesnt mean we're infallable too. Quit treating her like that. You need to be a parent once in awhile. Be that. Stop making everyone else be her parent and you wont find yourself in predicaments like this as often.
I know those of you who follow me are aware I complain A LOT about things. I complain a lot about fans online. I complain a lot about fans at sets, because they DONT know how to act. There is a reason 1 specific cast member on the show in mention once said to me "I dont mind you guys, because I know what you want... its fans I dont like". The person didnt mean that they hated fans... they meant they hated interacting with them because of how unpredictable, invasive and entitled many of them can be. There are FEW fandoms who I have had major temper tantrum type run ins with more than this subsection of the OUAT fandom. On average, there are more unpredictable, inv asive and entitled fans than the average fandom has. This example is sadly not even the worst I've ever encountered... but is now at least the 3rd I have had to address over the years.
So there you have it. The far far more detailed run down & explanation of the issues that came up. Some people just dont know how to apologize when they are in the wrong. More concerning is, some of them are parents.
Lastly, if you are reading this & are scared because you used one of my photos once. Heres the chain of how angry I get.
0- you used it, kept any watermark there was on it, and credited it to me.
0.5- you used it, kept my watermark on it but forgot to credit it to me.
1- Used it. Kept watermark. Knowingly didnt credit.
5- Used it. Deleted watermark, or if there wasnt a watermark, didnt credit it.
8 - used it. Deleted watermark. Knowingly didnt credit it.
9.8 - Used it. No watermark. Claimed its yours and dared me to file a DMCA.
10 - Used. no WM. Had DMCA filed, then re-posted photo out of spite after it was removed. Only 1 person has had the stupidity to try that... and her 1 month suspension for doing it seemed to do the trick funny enough.
Moral of the story.... 99% of the time if you use my photo.... even if you screw up and forget to credit it, I probably wont care much. Be a prick about it... I suddenly care much much more.
Today is January 27, 2016. To most people, this is just another day on the calendar. To some, its probably a special anniversary or birth date. To others, it might be something different. A reminder of something less joyous.
Today is important, whether you were born on this date, got married on this date, or simply don't have a personal attachment to it.
Today is Bell Lets Talk day. A day when 1 of Canadas largest telecommunications providers uses their influence and deep pockets to spur on the idea of getting people talking about, and hopefully helping deal with, Mental Health issues in our society.
The Bell Lets Talk cause has been around since 2010 and has now raised over $100 Million dollars to help people with Mental Health issues.
Everyone who has even a moderate amount of people in their life has someone they know who has a mental health issue. Some of you even reading this surely have ones as well. It is no longer that rare thing that people whisper about behind peoples backs, and the Bell Lets Talk cause has really helped with that. Just as many of us know someone who did suffer from any variety of mental health issues, that is no longer with us because of it. This movement is about helping to prevent that from happening again.
Today (till 11:59:59 PM Pacific Time) any tweet or Retweet made with the hashtag "BellLetsTalk will be met with a 5 cent donation from Bell.
As well, any share of their Facebook posts today will also be bet with a 5 cent donation.
While the site itself doesn't have at least not an easy to find one) place to donate directly, there are plenty of places you CAN donate if you want to set up a social media challenge like the one I did on twitter.
As for this blog post. For each unique user view it gets today, I will also donate an additional 5 cents (along with my twitter donation) to the Canadian Mental Health Association of British Columbia. For each comment FROM A UNIQUE USER, I will donate 10 cents, up to a maximum of $25.
So after you are done reading this, comment on it. Everyone has a story of someone they know who is dealing with mental health issues, or has in the past. Then share it with your friends, family etc. Then go on twitter and tweet, a LOT using the #BellLetsTalk hashtag, and go on facebook and share their posts.
But most importantly, be willing to listen, and talk to anyone who may need it. Not just today, but especially today.
You can find more info on the Bell Lets Talk cause HERE
For the Bell Lets Talk Twitter account HERE
For the Bell Lets Talk Facebook page HERE
For the Canadian Mental Health Association HERE
I was working on editing photos for some celebrity blog when I decided "fuck it, that can wait". Instead, I am going to tell you about a cat.
Not any cat, but a cat that was 1 of the best I have ever known. I have had lots of cats, I loved each of them, but this cat, 1 that wasnt even mine, was pretty special.
Garfield looked exactly like the cartoon icon. The colouring was eerily similar.
What seperated this Garfield though from the fictional one was, this Garfield was an energetic cat. An alpha male type, always reminding other cats it was his area. He was an exceptional mouser (I think maybe the best 1 I have known). He also had this unusually unique action, that he only seemed to engage in with me, and he really preferred my right arm over my left for it, but he would take which ever 1 was availale, where he would get all 4 legs on my arm & knead it with his back legs...and he would do this, literally for 1/2 an hour if I didnt stop him. I never got why he did it, why he only did it to me, but if he had the chance, he took it. He loved attention. He was all around, a great cat.
Of all the animals I have owned, I really am not sure what happened to most of them in the end. Some moved on to new homes, some I know had been put down due to illness or an injury from an animal attack, but I dont think I ever had a cat die from being hit by a vehicle that I knew of. I had a cat get hit by a vehicle, but she survived & seemingly had no lingering side effects from the hit. Garfield didnt have that luck. He was hit in the head.
I had the misfortune of seeing the immediate after effcts of what happened. I dont think I saw him get hit, but I dont really know what I saw leading up.
My attention was divered to that area as voices escalated. This isnt a rare thing in this area. For someone not from this area, you would probably think there was 50 reasons to call the cops a night. But living here, you learn the difference between "not great" & "really bad" situations pretty quick. I didnt know yet what I was looking at, but I had my phone in hand, incase it was a "really bad" situation as the early signs of what I thought I might be seeing alerted me enough to put my shoes on & go downstairs.
What I saw from my window was a woman, from my vantage point, it seemed she might be trying to escape a guy, I now know why. The way she was standing in the road, her hands on her head, bent over, I wondered if she was bleeding. By the time I got down the stairs to the porch, others had come over & were already leaving the scene. She was now standing upright, hand still on her head. A friend of Garfields owner saw me on my porch & asked me "thats not Garfield, is it?" I then realized, she wasnt holding her head out of an injury, but because she was horrified by what she saw. The man had tried probably to hold her back from what she saw. & thats what I saw in the dark from where I was, not her trying to get away out of fear, but because she wanted to check on the cat she just saw get hit.
There was infact a dead animal on the road. I went down the porch stairs & promptly went over. By then someone had come with a large plastic sheet to put over the animal that I still had not yet seen. I heard "cat" as I got closer, so I asked the 3 people around there "what colour is the cat", only answer I got was "its dead". NOT the question I asked you. I pulled back the sheet & sure enough, I had the misfortune of seeing Garfield there, lifeless.
I instantly told my neighbours friend to get the owner. Sure enough a minute later, he came out, his dad behind him. When his friend confirmed it was Garfield, he asked his dad to take care of it, he emotionally wasnt able to at that point. He told his dad "dont throw him in the garbage". This kid usually has it together, exudes a toughness that is either real or well crafted to seem so, but this was truly hurting him too much to deal with. I went & got a proper bag to put Garfield in, and his dad packaged him up to take home till his son could figure out what he wanted to do about him.
In the past few months, Garfield had seemed a tad slower going down stairs. Going up them and on flat land he seemed his old self, but going down, a little off. I wondered, as did others if there was an unchecked injury. He also had become a lot more brave about travelling outside his area. He rarely crossed the street in years past, but was doing so on a more frequent basis this summer. What was he doing where he got him though was a bit odd, it was further away from his area than I usually would see him. Also, what caused him to dart out onto the street in the 1st place? I'll never likely have an answer to either of these questions.
All I can do now is remember the awesomeness of the cat that his owner often called "G". I know when people wake up today & word gets out, a bunch of people from here will be sad to hear about his death. He was loved by most of the people here (even the 1 guy who often said he hated him & was allergic to him). Like the death of most animals, everyone will eventually move on, most will forget about him, some will remember him. Some, will miss him.
Rest In Peace Garfield.
Facebook - The place where joining means you can be in a group you dont know about, be forced to see an ad that offends you and read things your friends have done, but not in the order they were done.... and you cant do ANYTHING about it.
Ok Facebook, whats your damage??? Seriously.
For years now you have had ads on the side of your page. Fair enough. I understand. HOWEVER, you also have the OPTION TO BLOCK SPECIFIC ADS..... atleast thats the OUTRIGHT LIE you pass off to your clients.
You have various ads that are supposed to appeal to the specific user based on some random shit that you guys claim isnt data mining our profiles. Of the 10s of thousands of ads I have seen, MAYBE 3 have ever appealed to me. Biggest problem is, 25% of them are for adult dating sites. Because my profile said "single" your ad program seems to think "this guy really wants a dating site". FUCK YOU YOU FUCKING FUCK FUCKS. No, I dont. You would KNOW THIS BY NOW, if you actually did what you CLAIM TO DO when I click to delete those ads & BLOCK THOSE FUCKING SITES FROM SPAMMING ME WITH THEIR ADS AGAIN!!!!!!
See, they give you several options after you delete an ad. 1st up is "Hide ALL ads by *insert company name here*". As any normal person does, I of course always click that. Next up, a list of several reasons WHY I didnt like this ad. Theres offensive, sexually explicit, against my views, Uninteresting, Misleading, Repetitive and many more. That RIGHT THERE should be IT. No more ads from that site. As soon as you tell facebook "I dont want ads from this company because of this reason" there should be an auto-block from facebook that prevents that company from harrassing you again on the facebook site. But that doesnt happen.
Despite telling facebook to delete the ad. Despite telling facebook to hide ALL ads from that company. Despite even telling facebook what it is the advertisement has done to generate your anger & vitriol over it, this doesnt end those ads from coming up OVER AND OVER AGAIN.
In the last year+ since I started really keeping track of these things, I've "blocked" ads from Match, mate, zoosk and others more than 10 times each. I even went thru the creative idea of taking "single" out of my profile in a misguided attempt to stop this bullshit. It didnt stop.
A few days ago was when I finally had the last straw and felt it required a rant. I had an ad from one of these whore factories....IN FUCKING FRENCH. Yes, you read that right, FRENCH. I'm not from France or Quebec. Theres no sign I speak it in my profile. Yet there it was....and its not the 1st French ad I've seen. I've seen others. This was just the 1 that finally was the breaking point. Facebook has options to block this shit, shouldnt I NEVER FUCKING EVER see another ad from these companies? YOU are the ones who implemented the option. Now FUCKING FOLLOW THRU.
On average there are 5-7 ads on the side of the page. Almost ALWAYS there is 1 from a company I already told Facebook to block ads from. Usually, the mass majority (5 to all 7) are for products I would never need, want or care about. Just looking at the 7 currently there, 5 of them I will NEVER EVER EVER need.... the other two, probably unlikely & certainly not in the immediate future. When is this bullshit of posting ads I might actually care about going to happen?? You've been mining my data for several years now. How inept is it? Actually, based on how many Zoosk ads I have seen since the first time I blocked their ads, its the most inept anything on the planet.
So, to the next facebook problem. On my personal account, not such a problem. But on my business one, where I have several hundred "friends" its a massive one. People add you to a group you have no interest in being in. THEY add you. Not you, THEM. They can decide at any time that you would be interested in being in a group about nazis, bdsm or a religion you dont believe in, or all 3 for those with varied tastes. Its UP TO YOU to remove yourself from the group...and if you are foolish enough to have your facebook account attached to an email account you use for other things, well..... you will get countless emails FROM that group till you delete it if its an active group.
This practice needs to end IMMEDIATELY facebook. This shouldnt even be remotely allowable. I am pretty sure this borders on harrassment & probably other crimes. Imagine if someone you know adds you to a group of an offensive nature. You dont really think of it, because you dont really use your facebook that much. You go to a job interview, whch in this day & age, many employers use your social media/networking sites as a gague of how you really are. They see their client is a member of "hates this specific thing thats liked by the majority of sicety" group, and thats enough for the potential employer to turn you down. You have lost the job because of a group you never joined on facebook, but some smart-ass friend decided it would be funny to add you to it. It seems like a far out there example of how abusive this non-consentual power can be, but it is possible & you just know, its surely happened somewhere already, if not, dozens of times.
The last issue today to discuss.... why the fuck is my timeline always in some random order that makes NO SENSE? I immediately change it to "sort by most recent" again, like ANY FUCKING NORMAL PERSON WANTS A NEWSFEED TO BE, only for it to go right back to "random non-sensical order" the next time I come on. Top it off.... theres NOWHERE to make the change permanant. I have to manually change this setting every fucking time. So not only do you guys want everyone to read their timeline out of order, you dont even allow people the option to permanantly change it to the normal setting that those with a functioning brain want.
I realize facebook is NEVER going to read this. Even if my growing desire to kick Mark Zuckerberg in the balls does make their "security" personnel aware of my existence, they still wont forward these LOGICAL FUCKING DEMANDS to the people that need to read them.
Why wont they? Because working for facebook means you are mentally challenged, and not the "hey he/shes trying to contribute to society, so we find everything he/she does so wonderful, he/shes an inspiration for overcoming so much" type either. I'm talking "they really only are contributing shit, piss, screaming & the consumption of food to the world" type of people. The world would actually be more productive without them.
Sad part is, somehow, theres people in that company who have graduated some sort of post-secondary institution programs. Which leads me to believe the problem isnt the people hired, but the company itself. Clearly once you enter the building, they lobotomize you first, then incase some logical brain function still is happening, they electroshock you for a couple days, then probably drown you for 6 hrs....then ask you for suggestions on how to make the site better. Its the only plausable answer to the way the site has regressed in the past 3-4 years.
Anyways... thats my rant for now. I need to get off the computer, since I am sure the facebook legal team will be knocking on my door within the hour to "discuss" my desire to reward Zuckerfuck for all his years of stupidity. When they get here, I will 1st keep handing them fliers to dating sites, then ask if they want them, and if they say no, hand them the same flier again. I'll then tell them to go into a room of people with interests in stuff they dont care about... then once they have removed themselves from there, I'll answer their questions...but not in the order asked. Afterall, its the only way someone from facebook will understand it all.
"Family Day" is Today - An ACTUAL FUCKING HOLIDAY - Invented by a woman who couldnt keep her own Family together - B.C. Premier CHRISTY CLARK
Today is "Family Day" in British Columbia. Its an actual Holiday. That means banks, post offices, Government buildings & many small businesses are CLOSED. Transit is running on a Sunday/Holiday schedule.
If you have not heard of "Family Day" before, dont worry, no one else has either. Its made up. LITERALLY.
The soon to be unemployed B.C. Premier, Christy Clark, quite literally shoved this holiday into the schedule. Apparently Ms. Clark felt she needed 1 more day off from the many days off shes already taken neglecting & ignoring her job of running this Province with any level of competence. Doing nothing is hard work you know. She needed a day away from it.
The idea of "Family Day" is to spend time with your family. As someone with no immediate or distant family I am aware of within a couple thousand miles of me, what the fuck am I supposed to do with this day Christy? How about people who have recently lost family or split from family? What do you think THEY are feeling today? Do you think THEY are happy to be reminded about family today? Doubtful.
Your holiday is offensive to those without families. Whats next "Married People Day"?? Maybe "Parents Day"? This holiday is a farce. It has no actual reason to exist. All other Holidays are based on actual events. Christmas,
Easter, New Years Day, B.C. Day, Canada Day, Victoria Day, Remembrance Day and Thanksgiving are real Holidays based on actual events or actual historical
dates. Family Day? Its made up. Might as well have "Unemployment Day" or perhaps "Employment Day" holidays while you are at it. They make as much sense as this one.
Your overwhelming hate to do any work must be pretty massive to start making up Holidays. I mean you already avoid actually DOING anything helpful for this Province as it is...now you are taking days off that you should be working.
I'd like to know Christy, what do YOU do on "Family Day" that is so different from all other days. Do you neglect your family the other 364 days a year, much like your job? Or do you do something really bizaare on Family Day & actually do your job? No? Didnt think so.
In 2022 I suppose there is a bright side however. I can take my most hated Commercial Excuse day & my most hated Holiday & hate both of them in 1 shot when Family Day" & Valentines Day are on the same day.
With any luck, Family Day will be expunged from the list of REAL Holidays before the 2022 double-hell day. I dont know why you felt we needed this to begin with. Was it really that vital to tie Saskatchewan & Nunavut for most
Holiday days in Canada? Would you not rather we be known as a hard working Province, and not the slackers we are so often seen as by everyone?
Ironic part of Family Day, your son Hamish probably would rather spend it with your Ex-Husband Mark. Congrats on keeping YOUR family together. If you feel
I'm hitting below the Belt Christy. Suck it up. Afterall, I have to endure a Holiday that I didnt want, have no need for & specifically excludes me.
Also, enjoy unemployment in May. No one is going to miss you.
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